Powerful Thinking on Purpose

3 Things to STOP Doing NOW and Improve Your Life FAST.

Wendy — Wed, 12 Jun 2013 12:59:25 +0000

1. STOP CLEANING RIGHT BEFORE YOU HAVE COMPANY.

First of all, most people really don’t care how immaculate your place is.

It takes a long time to clean and you could be doing something more fun, like reading a book.

If your place is too clean, your kids will develop more allergies.

Your friends are coming to visit you because they like you, not to judge you.

If you are still worried about what they’ll think of you, place your vacuum cleaner in a prominent place. They’ll think you got interrupted while cleaning.

2. STOP WORRYING ABOUT WHAT OTHERS THINK OF YOU.

If you care about what others think, you’ll never get to enjoy the exhilaration of skinny dipping.

You’ll never feel comfortable making a presentation at work.

When you care about what others think, you’ll never walk out of your house, head held up high, and wearing red shoes, an orange jacket, and a purple hat.

The more you worry about what people think of you, the less fun you are going to have.

3. STOP WORRYING SO MUCH.

Worrying has been proven to be a major cause of stress. Stress is a major factor of disease.

even more stress. When you have more stress, it’s easier to reach into the cookie jar to feel better.

FACT:

WORRY is simply a thought in your mind. It’s a thought about something that HAS NOT HAPPENED.

You can choose to think about all the bad things that haven’t happened,

You can also think about the outcome you desire.

When you think about what you want, not only do you have a better chance of achieving it, you will feel better, too.

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By-the-way, when I find myself worrying, I use EFT, (tapping, the Emotional Freedom Technique) to stop the worry FAST. It works like a charm.

Share your comment below:

If you could stop yourself from worrying about one thing today, what would that be?

Freedom is Letting Go of Limiting Beliefs

Wendy — Tue, 04 Jun 2013 10:22:31 +0000

In the past I used to blame others for my happiness and well-being.

If I didn’t like my job, I would attribute my unhappiness to the tasks I had to complete. If I wasn’t in a relationship, I felt unhappy. This meant that I could only be happy when I had a man in my life.

By assigning my happiness outside of myself, I made sure that there was no way that I could be happy while I was single.
As a result, when I was single, I spent more time looking for the “right man,” rather than appreciating and enjoying my life.

I allowed this to continue for years. Rather than enjoying my life, I was always looking to the future when I would be happy. “I’ll be happy when…”was my daily motto.

Thank goodness that I finally discovered that I had the power to be happy all by myself.

It was then that my life changed dramatically.

One day I was dropping my mother off at the airport after her week-long visit.

As I pulled her luggage out of the trunk she said “I hope you are happier the next time I visit you.”

I was puzzled. I wonder what she’s talking about? I’m in the best place in my life. I love my career, my children are happy, and I’m feeling great.

“What do you mean?” I asked.

“I hope you have a man in your life by then,” she responded.

Whoa. That was from left field. What was she talking about? Then the proverbial light bulb flashed through my mind.

I am content and happy. I then realized that her comment had nothing to do with me. She was talking about herself.

My mother had been married three times. She was the one who wasn’t happy if she wasn’t in a relationship with a man.

At that moment, I grasped the concept that I had unintentionally adopted her belief all those years.

Freedom is letting go of those beliefs which no longer serve me and choosing the beliefs that I want.

3 Proven Ways to Feel Happier

Wendy — Thu, 23 May 2013 12:40:31 +0000

Years ago someone said to me “You can choose to be happy, or you can choose to be unhappy. It’s your choice.”

C’mon, I thought. Maybe YOU can, because your life is perfect. You have a great job and a loving family. Life is easy for you.

I used to think “I’ll be happy when…

I have more money
I have found my soulmate
I finish school
I have lost 25 pounds

I’ve discovered that what he said was true. It’s great to set goals for ourself, but we don’t have to wait to be happier until we’ve achieved them.

We can choose to be happy while in the process of achieving our goals.

3 FAST AND SIMPLE STEPS TO MORE HAPPINESS

1. FIND NEW FRIENDS

Jim Rohm, (entrepreneur, author, speaker) once said “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” Your friends, your family, and your co-workers all have a subtle influence on your thoughts, feelings, and actions.

If you spend your time with people who complain and are dissatisfied with their life, you’ll begin to feel that your life is the result of things out of your control. It’s OK if others are unhappy, that’s their choice. If you want to enjoy a more fulfilled life, you’ll want to find others to hang out with.

You don’t have to give up your old friends. Begin to seek out others who’s goals are more in alignment with yours, and less time with those who aren’t on your path.

2. PRACTICE GOOD FEELING THOUGHTS

The easiest way to feel happier is to make yourself find things to be happy about. Maybe you feel that there isn’t much to feel good about these days, but you can always find something that you can feel grateful about.

For example, you can feel grateful that the weather is pleasant today. You can feel grateful that your favorite TV show is on tonight. You can choose to feel grateful about the big stuff too. Grateful that you live in a country where it’s safe to vote or grateful that have access to the internet.

The process of practicing good feelings leads your subconscious mind in a new direction. As you continue to practice, you are training your mind to feel more positive. The more you practice, the more natural this kind of thinking becomes.

3. FIND A WAY TO HELP OTHERS

Search out ways to volunteer your time to make a difference in someone’s life. Make sure your volunteer time is involved with doing things you feel good about. If you like being around children, then don’t volunteer at your local retirement home.

Volunteering doesn’t have to take up all of your free time. If you are new to volunteering, once every few months might be just right for you.

People who help others tend to spend less time focusing on themselves and their problems. Helping others not only feels good, it’s good karma.

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What helps you feel happier?

Weird Experiment With Rice Yields Astonishing Results

Wendy — Sun, 12 May 2013 10:58:48 +0000

THE SCENE

My Hypnosis Certification Training, Wayne, PA.

THE STUDENTS

Eight amazing people were taking my hypnosis training.

Some were taking the training for their personal benefits. Some were getting certified to add to their career skills.

A 48 year old OBGYN
A 65 year old psychiatrist
A 34 year old mother of three
A 50 year old IT consultant
A 45 year old business man and entrepreneur
A 52 year old nurse
A 20 year old college sophomore
A 53 year old middle school teacher

“ALL THOUGHTS HAVE ENERGY”

Each student knew intuitively how true that statement was. Like many of us, they have experienced how stress thoughts can turn into headaches, stomach aches, even headaches.

I wanted them to be able to learn how powerful their thoughts are – from a different perspective.

I asked, “Do you think that your thoughts could affect rice”?

THE EXPERIMENT

The following week I brought in three mason jars, each filled with one cup of cooked organic jasmine rice.

First, we labeled the jars: LOVE, NEUTRAL, and HATE, SHOULD
(One student said she hated that she felt she should always be doing things for her siblings, so we added “SHOULD” to the jar)

After taping a label to each jar, we placed two jars in the furthest office and shut the door.

Here’s where the real fun began. Each of us held the jar of rice that was labeled “LOVE”. As we passed the jar of rice around the table each student sent love and said loving thoughts such as:

“You are SUCH a wonderful jar of rice!” “I love you, you beautiful, healthy, wonderful rice!” “You yummy rice…I SO appreciate you!”

It didn’t take long before someone started to chuckle while showering the rice with heartfelt appreciation. Another student began to giggle, and soon, we were all roaring with laughter. In between laughs we kept telling that rice how much we adored it. After two minutes, we figured that the rice got the message and we moved on.

We then did the same with the jar labeled “HATE, SHOULD”. We berated the jar and sent it anger and hatred.
It wasn’t easy to say hurtful things to the rice.

THE VERY WEIRD RESULTS

We placed the three jars on the fireplace mantle in our office and went home.

I had an idea of what to expect based on the same experiment I had done with two previous classes. In the past, the “NEUTRAL” jar would turn a light green or pinkish color, while the “LOVE” jar would remain almost the same. Our experiment began to head in the direction I expected. At two weeks, dark mold was visible on the bottom of the “HATE” jar.

At week three, we noticed something odd.

The rice in the “HATE” jar had clearly begun to decompose more rapidly than the other jars. In the previous experiments, the only change was that the “HATE” jar had much more mold than the others.
By week eight, the differences were visible.

The “HATE” jar had decomposed so rapidly that what remained was mostly liquid mush in the bottom of the mason jar.

The “NEUTRAL” jar turned yellow and retained it’s original volume.

The “LOVE” jar remained it’s original color and original volume.

WHAT DO YOU THINK?

Do thoughts REALLY have so much power they caused these changes? Share your comments below!

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3 Powerful Ways to Get Un-Stuck When Life Stinks.

Wendy — Wed, 01 May 2013 19:14:35 +0000

Sometimes it’s hard for me to change the way I think. It happens when worries and fears get stuck on that sticky fly-paper in my mind. Even if I ignore them, they’re still there.

I get annoyed with myself when I let these negative thoughts take over. I know better. But every once in a while it might take me a few hours, even weeks, for me to remember that I have tools to get rid of these thoughts.

I’ve been feeling stuck lately so I’ve dusted off some of my favorite ways to change how I feel.

Have you ever let worries and fears get the better of you?

Below are three of my go-to fast ways to help you get un-stuck and feel better:

TAKE A PERSONAL DAY OFF

Taking a personal day off from your worries can help you get the distance you need to a fresh look at your situation from a different and clearer perspective.

To take a day off, you don’t need to stay away from work. What you need to do is to take a day off from your negative thoughts. How do you do this?

Here are a 3 ways that work beautifully:

1. Every time you notice a worry or a thought, toss it into an imaginary box in your mind.

Make sure you put the lid on every time you do this so they don’t get out. Before you go to sleep, tell your box to change your thoughts and help you come up with better ones, even creative solutions. Open the box in the morning and you’ll notice that overnight your thoughts will change. Maybe you won’t have as many. Maybe you’ll even notice some surprising solutions that occur to you.

2. Take a moment every hour and think of all the things you would love to have and experience in your life.

You can choose to intentionally think about places you would love to visit. Revel in your thoughts. Imagine how good it would feel to be on a warm beach, or lake. Imagine that you are enjoying an exciting vacation with loved ones.

Think about how good it feels to be with people you love. If no one comes instantly to mind, make up a person who adores you and whom you would love to be with. It doesn’t matter if your thoughts are based in reality or if they are imaginary.

Take a few seconds each time and put yourself in that wonderful scene.

3. Be Grateful

Whenever I want a quick way to help myself get back on track, the practice of gratitude does it for me. When I remember to be grateful, I always feel better.

Here’s what a typical Gratitude Day sounds like to me:

I’m grateful that the weather is nice out today.
I’m grateful that I have a computer.
I’m grateful that I enjoy our sunny bedroom.
I’m grateful that my family is OK.
I’m grateful that Antiques Road Show is on tonight.

Being grateful doesn’t mean that I have to be grateful for the obvious. I don’t have to say to myself: “I’m grateful that I live in the United States and can vote safely,” (though I AM grateful for that).

You can be grateful for the small stuff too.

So, the next time you get stuck, choose to do something different.

What do you do when you get stuck?

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My First Lesson in Positive Thinking

Wendy — Wed, 17 Apr 2013 18:53:40 +0000

I supported myself the moment I graduated from college.

My first place was an old (and elegant) apartment in the Germantown section of Philadelphia which I shared with a young woman.

It was furnished in the style of “Early American Yard Sale”. Nothing matched but I was thrilled with our scratchy 1940’s olive green sofa and shiny chrome and red kitchen table.

In a few short years I made enough to move into my dream apartment, Alden Park. My tiny kitchen took up a wall of the 8 x 11 living room, and the refrigerator occupied the coat closet. In spite of the makeshift kitchen, I loved that it was my place.

My salary from Merill Lynch was almost $12,000, and I had more money than I ever imagined.
Anyone looking from the outside saw a young stockbroker with the with a great job.

I’ll NEVER HAVE ENOUGH

I may have had a great job, but my confidence was an illusion, created by me to try to feel successful.

Inside, I was struggling with uncertainty. I was a fraud surrounded by people who understood the nuances of investing. In spite of my training, I lacked a background in economics, and worse, felt unqualified to lead people to trust me to provide them with quality investment advice.

Every time I glanced at a mirror I saw a sad woman trying hard to be positive and confident.

After a year of cold calls, and speaking engagements, success eluded me. I had opened accounts for hundreds of clients, but wasn’t making monthly commissions.

In a short time, my beliefs about money and success plummeted. Thoughts of making mistakes and getting fired tormented my dreams. Concerns that I would fail to generate enough income to remain employed occupied my mind. I felt as if I was doomed to fail and not have enough to support myself.

A relentless cycle of numbing negative thoughts about money overtook my being.
I’ll never have enough money, I thought. It felt as true as the day is long.

THE LESSON

One evening I was having dinner with my father, a self-made successful businessman. He asked me about my upcoming vacation time and I responded sadly:
“I don’t have enough money to go on vacation.”

“What? he replied. “You make enough money to go on vacation. Stop thinking that way!”

“I don’t know. I just don’t have enough”, I said.

“You’ve got to stop your negative thinking.” He sounded angry.

“I can’t. It’s true. I don’t make enough money.” I said wearily.

“Listen. You’ve got to turn yourself around. No one wants to spend time with someone as negative as you”, he lectured. “Here’s what I want you to do. Tomorrow, go to the bank and get a crisp new $100 bill. Fold it up and keep it in your wallet.”

(Was he kidding? I couldn’t afford to do that. My rent was $400 a month.)

“From now on, whenever someone asks you anything about money you have to change what you say. You cannot say “I don’t have enough money,” you must respond with:

“I choose to not spend my money right now.”

Even though I didn’t think it would make a difference I went to the bank and came home with a new $100 bill. I folded it carefully and slipped it in my wallet.

I have $100 in my wallet. Wow! It feels good to have so much money, I thought. My thoughts changed almost immediately.

Reframing my thoughts was the first step to helping me feel better about money.

My first lesson in positive thinking.
Thank you, Dad.