It’s no secret that people who choose to be more positive are happier and attract more into their life.

But how can you be more positive when negative thoughts swirl in and out of your mind all day?

For some people it’s easy. Either they are born positive or their parents passed down positive thinking skills. The rest of us have to find our way to positive thinking through trial and error or stumble on someone who can teach us.

Someone Taught Me

My path to be more positive thoughts began in 2001. I attended a workshop in a Philadelphia suburb that had a profound effect on my life. During the workshop I had one of the biggest and surprising “ah ha!” moments in my life.

The only reason I attended this workshop was because a friend suggested it. I was separating from my husband of 15 years and stuck waist-deep in a miserable situation. My friend shared that he was shaken by his divorce too. The workshop isn’t about divorce, he said. If you aren’t in a good place it will help you get clear about yourself so you can move forward. I think you’ll get a lot from it.

It was only 20 minutes away and I had nothing to lose and everything to gain. I needed a miracle, not a workshop, but I signed up anyway.

Ah ha!

The first day of the workshop was a blur. It was hard to push my thoughts aside and focus. The second day of the workshop found me gazing out the window and half listening to the facilitator. He was droning away and drawing on the board to illustrate his story. I have no idea what he was saying…my mind was light-years away.

What I do remember is that the moment he wrote the word “CHOICES” on the chalk board, my ears perked up and my body snapped to attention.

”You have a choice in every situation in your life. he said. “You can choose how to respond. You can even choose which thoughts you want to listen to,” he informed us.

Are you talking to me? I thought. You mean I can CHOOSE what thoughts I want? I can even choose to be more positive? Wow. I love this idea.

This was the first time I had heard this in my life. I was as stunned as if someone told me I won the lottery.

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Until that moment, it never occurred to me to direct my thoughts. It never occurred to me that I could change how I feel and be more positive. I couldn’t believe that I had been so oblivious.

Being more positive has changed my life so tremendously that I feel both compelled and blessed to share this with as many people as possible.

Fast forward 10 years and I teach people just like you to discover how to direct your thoughts to be more positive and attract more in your life.

You get to pass it on to others too.

Life doesn’t get much better than this.

Who has helped you to be more positive? What one thing do you remember that has always stuck in your head? SHARE THIS POSITIVE THINKING TIP FROM POWERFULTHINKINGONPURPOSE.COM!

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19 Responses to It’s Your Choice To Be More Positive

  1. Susan Cooper says:

    Good for you. You are absolutely spot on. It is so easy to slip into a funk and not take control of our thoughts. It takes practice but once you get it you will NEVER go back. :-)

  2. Wendy says:

    Susan, sounds like you have mastered the art of taking control of your thoughts. How do you do it?

  3. Geek Girl says:

    Life is all about choices. Being positive is just one of them. :)

  4. Don’t you find it interesting too, that when we are more positive about one thing, that other things also are more upbeat, affirming, reassuring? That’s what I TRY to remember if I hit a rough spot in the road.

    Thanks for the good post.

  5. Wendy says:

    I also get up and set my day by saying “I choose to have a wonderful day today!”
    I am now a very positive person. In the past when something didn’t go well I would hold on to that thought and worry for hours, even days. Now it’s easy for me to put stuff behind me.
    Like today for example. At a craft show I bought a beautiful oriental print of birds and bamboo for our living room. Before purchasing it I took a pic and sent it to my boyfriend for his approval. He said “Sure. It looks great.”
    I purchased it and this afternoon we brought it to the frame store to get a new mat and possibly new frame.
    While looking at the 45 different colors of white matts, Michael looked more closely at the print. “Wen, see those 2 birds at the bottom on the right? What do you think they are doing?”
    I bent down to look more closely. “Looks like they’re fighting.”
    Michael paused to look at the print again. “Do you really want a print of birds fighting on the wall of our living room? I think it’s bad feng shui – especially because we both will be sitting next to those birds!”
    I looked at Michael and groaned…”Now that you’ve said it that way, I’ll never be able to sit here and NOT think about birds fighting!
    Lesson learned. One bad purchase is now behind me. Next time I’ll bring Michael with me lol!

  6. Great post, Wendy.

    I think I was born a positive person, as I am the eternal optimist. I always look on the bright side of any situation and it doesn’t even occur to me to look for the negative. Sometimes, that can act to my detriment, as perhaps I am too trusting. But I prefer to be that way rather than someone who dwells on the negative and misses out on much that life has to offer because I am concerned with what might or might not happen …

  7. Wendy…

    Bravo on taking that step. It is a leap of faith to go into new territory feeling vulnerable. Life is clearly about choices. We can choose to be happy or we can choose to be sad. We can choose to be successful or we can choose to wallow in our failures. You wrote a great article here. I always tell people to refer back to Dr Norman Vincent Peale, a man way before the Tony Robbins’ of the world. One of his mantras was all about us making choices.

    Keep it up! Thanks!

  8. Becc says:

    I used to be positive before I became sick. I am on the mend finally but still struggle with being positive all the time. I am working on it daily and like your posts as they are a good reminder to keep it going.

  9. Wendy says:

    Becc, you are so kind. I just sent you a note via your CONTACT form on your site.
    I’d like to send you a pdf of Powerful Thinking on Purpose. (It will be out in 4 weeks or so). I think you’ll discover an easy way to feel more positive and optimistic. Let me know your email address and I’ll send it asap.

  10. Your post hits the spot perfectly Wendy when you say it’s all about choices. Happiness, peace and a positive existence are certainly results of choices we make. From my experience there are two steps to the aim of reaching a positive and happiness me – a) as you pointed out very well, the fact that there ARE choices, and b) that one has to get out of their comfort zone sometimes and make the choice one is not that comfortable with. Otherwise there is no personal grow as we would always go the easy way, not realizing that the easy way is not always the one leading you to positive and happy land. :-)

  11. Bethany Lee says:

    Isn’t it cool when you learn/hear something that you had never heard before, and that can make a big difference in your life? I have had many of these Aha! moments, though, maybe not life-changing ones. However, the biggest life-changing moment most recently that I can think of was when I crossed that finish line in my marathon this year. Suddenly, it seemed like my potential was wide open. This was always something I believed for other people, but had a more difficult time believing for me. It’s weird, I was pretty sure I could finish that marathon, but after I finished it, I realized in retrospect, how much I didn’t believe I could finish it. Does that make sense? And then, that was an Aha! moment for me.

  12. Wendy says:

    Bethany, now that you’ve conquered this, what is next?

  13. Tope Olofin says:

    You are so right. It is only when we intentional focus on our thoughts on positive things that our lives changes for the better. Thank you for this!

  14. Patrick Huff says:

    That has been a challenge for me. But I do live a positive life in public.

  15. Amy Findley says:

    Awesome post Wendy and I was one that had to learn on my own. I have a parent that can be very negative at times.

  16. Lia says:

    hi, wendy.

    great article.
    i agree. it’s our choice.
    i choose to be positive, and pass it on to others too.

    best,
    lia

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