THE MISCHIEVOUS MONKEY IN YOUR MIND
It’s no surprise I’m a proponent of being aware of your thoughts.
Because when you are aware of your thoughts you can use your abilities to shift and change them to your advantage.
I teach my clients (and frankly, anyone who stands still long enough to listen to me) how important it is to do this.
I’m minding my own business when *poof* a negative image or thought flashes through my mind.
Sometimes it’s a scary thought like an image of one of my children getting hurt.
Other times it’s a familiar doubt, like the old one that says I’m not good enough, or the fear that shouts “Don’t even bother ‘coz you’re going to fail!”
Am I responsible for these thoughts?
Why would I think this way?
MY MONKEY HAS A JOB
Whenever these thoughts and images occur, I imagine I have a small mischievous monkey in my mind.
Now, this little monkey is generally quiet, but always alert. When she notices a moment of quiet, she seizes the opportunity to grab a negative thought, worry, or fear out of her basket and tosses it right to me.
I imagine her basket is full of colored little ping pong balls.
Each ball represents a specific negative thought.
This is my monkey’s sole purpose in life.
Her goal is to toss these balls of negative thoughts as often as possible. She doesn’t care what I do with them. She just loves tossing them!
When I was younger I allowed this mischievous monkey to toss thousands of negative thoughts every day. I believed each one. And I held onto them too.
The result of having a mind filled with so much negativity was that I was always unhappy – downright miserable.
MY MONKEY DOESN’T CARE HOW I PLAY THE GAME
This small monkey doesn’t care what happens to those negative balls of thoughts.
Remember, her sole job is to simply toss them.
Knowing this, I created a little mind game when my mischievous monkey is busy:
- When this little monkey tosses out a negative thought I immediately take action by eliminating, releasing, deflecting, or even destroying the thought.
- When the thought is gone, I ask myself “How do I want to feel?”
- I then take the answer and use it to replace the old negative thought.
I’ve gotten quite good at my game. It takes a nanosecond.
The more I practice, the better I get at this game.
The big thing is that I’ve been winning.
I’ve reduced my negative thoughts and I’m a lot happier.
And my mischievous monkey? Well, she’s got her game to play and will never give up.