I just got a phone call from my 84 year old father. He said that he’s experiencing congestive heart failure and will I be available for the next few days if his wife isn’t around and he needs me?

My heart plummeted to the ground when I heard him say “heart failure”. Feeling dizzy, the rest of his words didn’t connect.

My thoughtful and calm response must have been full of panic, because the next thing I heard him say was that everything is fine and under control. He reminded me that heart failure is not death and that he’s had this condition before.

Last week our sweet eight year old retired greyhound, Talya, was diagnosed with cancer. She isn’t her perky self and every time I see her lying on the sofa my heart breaks a little bit more.

I’m feeling so very sad right now. I know it’s OK to feel sad, but I don’t want to wallow in it. Death is a natural course of life and I’m not in fear of it. I just don’t want others that I love to die.

Both my Dad and Talya are still here with us.

The only thing I have control over is my feelings. I don’t want to spend the next months or even years in mourning.

Even though sometimes I’m not so good at this, I will continue to do my best to be aware of my feelings.

And when I notice that I’m feeling sad because I’m thinking about the future, I’ll bring myself back to the present. I’ll imagine my Dad happy, and surround him with a healing white light. I’ll imagine Talya enjoying us petting her while surrounded by healing white light too.

If my thoughts have energy, then these are the only kinds of thoughts I want Dad and Talya to receive.

They deserve love and beautiful energy.

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What kinds of thoughts will you send your loved ones today?

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18 Responses to What Thoughts Will You Send Today?

  1. Roy Innella says:

    Wendy, I can share your sorrow that you feel for your dad and pup. I recently lost my younger sister to Leukemia after only a 45 day fight, she was only 44 years old. After losing both parents (my father died at 53 and mother at 79) and my younger sister I realize that you must look at the positive side of life for as long as you can and appreciate what you have. Life is short and you make your own happiness by appreciating your gifts. I hope things work out for your dad and your pup is not in pain.

    • Wendy says:

      Thank you Roy, for sharing this. I really appreciate the time you took. I can’t imagine how you have turned yourself around after so much loss, but your words are encouraging.

  2. Congestive heart Failure – CHF – sounds so scary but if your Dad follows his doctors orders, and makes a few life adjusyments he’ll be OK. Both husband and I have it. The most important things to do, in my opinion, are to take prescribed meds every day (particularly the diuretic), get rid of the salt in ones diet, and get some exercise everyday (Follow doctors suggetions on this). Also no alcohol or smoking! My hubby Bill has had CHF for 5 years, and I have had it for 2. Before CHF, Bill had 3 heart attacks,triple bypass surgery, and a mild stroke. His is not a healthy heart and yet he is living with CHF at 78 and is still active. Help your Dad make the necessary adjustments in his life style!

    • Wendy says:

      To be honest, my dad is the first person I had ever heard of who has CHF, and I did panic!
      Luckily I know he will do absolutely everything to keep himself healthy. He’s only in his 80’s and he promised he will be here to bug us for the next 20 years lol!

  3. Seeing our parents age is difficult Wendy. I have this situation too. Including the aging dog!

    I’ve been doing a good deal of meditating lately, just 10 minutes a day. I’ve found it to be crucial to both letting me feel what we might label, negative feelings, which tends to help them go by much more quickly.

    Because I too like having those positive vibes when I am around people, particularly those I love.

    Thanks for such a thoughtful post.

  4. Toni says:

    Some days & periods of time are more challenging than others. That’s why we practice being mindful of our thoughts in times that are easier.
    You must have practiced in easier times because you are able to draw from those strengths now. Staying in the moment when we want to jump ahead to seemingly prepare ourselves for the worst. Is such a gift to our peace of mind.
    I wish you the best! Sending good thoughts to your Dad & beloved pet.
    Regards,
    Toni

  5. Betsy Lehman says:

    Hi Wendy,
    I’m sending healing light, love and prayers to You, Talya and your dad and hope all the love and light you receive makes your journey easier.
    Hugs
    Betsy

  6. Susan Cooper says:

    Both are difficult and I felt your pain as I was reading your post, it made me cry. The hardest part of this life is watching the ones we love age and pass. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers

    • Wendy says:

      Susan, thank you for keeping us in your thoughts and prayers. Even though this is a natural path, it still stinks sometimes. Guess I’m not as “highly evolved” as I’d like to be!

  7. bindhurani says:

    Wendy, it is sad news. I have the scare of life last year, when my father was taken to hospital because of heart attack. He was suffering with so many things and was not able to walk for few years. His sufferings was painful to watch….Finally I gave up and send him my love and prayed to reduce his sufferings or let the death take him to end his sufferings. In a couple of days, amazingly, a doctor agreed to do a procedure, many were not willing to do. He feels much better now. I never seen any miracle like this one in my own life.
    Hopefully, your dog will not suffer much. I am thinking of her being happy when you touch her and pet her.

  8. Wendy – I wish for your Dad and for Talya a “refuah schleima” – a complete healing of body and spirit. And I wish for you as peaceful and positive an experience as you can have during this challenging time.

  9. Hi Wendy, I have a question regarding positive thinking. I find that whenever I insist on believing in myself, I am prone to be a little egoistic and sometimes come off as really rude and arrogant. Though I have gotten really far because of this strong self-belief, I cant help but to think I am doing something wrong here. Could you give me some tips or advice? I’d really appreciate it.

    Thank you,
    Ardiv Jauhari

    • Wendy says:

      Ardiv, I think this has more to do with how you communicate with others than a problem with your thinking!
      It might be helpful to talk with a friend and ask for honest feedback on how you sound.
      Some people learn to temper their opinions by first acknowledging the opinions of others and stating simply why yours is different.

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