Last night my husband finally told his boss that he was leaving his company after 23 years and going into practice as an EFT Practitioner.
Of course, we had discussed this and agreed he would quit this summer. I was calm and relaxed, and said, “That’s so wonderful dear. I’m glad you finally did it!”
Well… that’s NOT what happened.
My stomach started to tighten and my heart sped up. What I heard in my head was, Oh my god. Now there are two of us in our own private practice. What if we can’t pay the rent on our office? What if we can’t pay our mortgage? What if we can’t pay for our cars? Then, BOOM…OMG… we’re gonna be homeless.
The Powerful Thinking Strategy
When I have thoughts like these, I now recognize that these worries are just thoughts. A thought only has energy if I give it energy. (I had to train myself to do this because I used to worry constantly.)
I remind myself that a worry is a thought about something in the future that hasn’t happened. Of course, it has the potential of happening, but I realize I’m focusing on the worst that could happen rather than the best that can occur.
In order to feel better, I know I have to be aware of the thought, then shift and change my thought and focus on what I want.
I have to be aware and consciously change my thought to: “I like the idea that things will work out just fine.”
Every time I say that phrase, my body begins to calm down. This is because I’m now focusing on what I want, (rather than that fear of becoming homeless) rather than what I don’t want in my life.
Powerful Thinking Practice
1. The next time you have any worry, take a moment and notice it for what it is:
- It’s simply a thought.
- It doesn’t mean it’s real.
- It doesn’t mean it’s going to happen.
2. Then, focus on what you want and say to your self, “I like the idea that things will be OK.
This week, see if you can do this every time you have a worry. How often can you do this? Make a game out of it.
By repeating your new thought, you are creating and reinforcing new neural pathways in your mind. The more you repeat your new thought, the stronger these pathways become and the better you feel…
Because you are thinking about what you WANT, rather than what you DON’T WANT.
By making small changes, you can feel more optimistic, and you’ll notice that you can quickly reduce (and even eliminate) that old internal stress you feel when life situations come up.
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I prefer the optimistic approach to looking at things too! If we took all the energy we spent worrying about what COULD go wrong and focus it on doing everything we possibly can to produce a positive outcome life we be much easier and less stressful. One day at a time is my thought process when i start to feel overwhelmed.
well said Wendy – we create our future. So if all of our thoughts/creative energies are on negative outcomes, those are the one’s that we are (subconsciously) creating