Attracting my true love had nothing to do with luck. It was my clear and full intention to attract my perfect partner and marry again.
Frankly, at the time, it was difficult to believe that I could attract my soul mate. But I desperately wanted to share my life with a partner.
I was 30 pounds overweight and had teenagers at home.
Not a great combination in my opinion. Who would ever want me? A divorced woman with teens? No one in their right mind would want a woman like me, I thought.
But… I knew others found true love. And I knew I didn’t want to spend the rest of my life without a loving partner to share it with.
One day I decided to take myself on as a client, and create a plan using the same tools I use to help my clients.
Did it work? It sure did.
But… along the way I got some surprising benefits.
So, please follow along with me, because I know when you take the time to follow these simple steps, not only will you attract your perfect partner but you’ll also fall in love with an amazing person.
STEP #1: IDENTIFY YOUR LIMITING BELIEFS
After my first marriage ended, I was in shock.
Frankly, I didn’t think I could ever trust a man again – for so many reasons. Worse, I no longer trusted my judgement. I didn’t chose well the first time, what made me think I would do better the next time?
During my first “coffee date” I kept wondering whether my date was telling the truth about himself – so much that I vowed to hire a detective before my next date.
I hated feeling this way.
I knew I had to get over these feelings.
Because distrust was just one in a long list of limiting beliefs that would hold me back from attracting the love I wanted.
The others were:
I’m too old
I’m too fat
All the good ones are taken
I’m not good enough
Are any of those familiar to you?
To help you move forward, you can start by following these simple instructions:
Right now, go get apiece of paper and fold it in half the long way.
On the top left side write “MY BELIEFS”.
Then jot down the thoughts and worries you have about attracting your true love. Be honest! Write whatever comes into your mind – no editing please.
These are the beliefs that can get in the way of you attracting your true love.
STEP #2: FIND WAYS TO GET OVER YOUR LIMITING BELIEFS
The truth is, those beliefs will either serve to help you achieve your goals, or they will get in the way of attracting your true love.
There are lots of ways to get over those doubts. (Hypnotherapy and EFT Tapping are among two of my favorite ways we use to help our clients.)
Another effective way is to use Powerful Thinking.
Because I wrote the book on Powerful Thinking, (surprisingly called Powerful Thinking On Purpose), I feel qualified to share this simple way to overcome your beliefs.
Here’s the short version:
Go back to your list of “MY BELIEFS”.
On the right side of the paper, write down the opposite of the belief on the left.
For example if your belief is: I’m too old to attract a partner.
Then on the right side write: I like the idea I am just the right age to attract my perfect partner.
If your thought is: I’m too heavy to attract my perfect partner.
Then on the other side write: I like the idea I am perfect right now and can attract my perfect partner.
These are now the new thoughts and beliefs that will help you achieve your goal of attracting your soul mate.
They are also the new thoughts that will help you change the way you feel about yourself.
The old thoughts on the left side? They’ll never help you feel good about yourself.
Thinking of those old thoughts will make you’ll feel inadequate, less than, and never ever good enough.
DAILY TO DO LIST:
Take your new thoughts and repeat them ten times in the morning, ten times in the evening, and as often as possible throughout the day.
Doing this will help you start the process of creating new believable thoughts.
This is a powerful first step towards adopting new beliefs about yourself.
STEP #3: FOCUS ON THE END RESULT
When we think about our goals, we tend to stop short of the true feelings we want in our lives.
For example, my goal wasn’t to get married. My true goal was to be happily married for the rest of my life to my perfect partner, feeling wonderful every day.
For example, if you are looking for a job, getting the job isn’t the end result. Your true goal is enjoying a great career, and years later still enjoying it!
Future Visualization – the Secret Sauce
This is the fun part.
As often as possible take a few minutes to visualize your future end result.
I imagine myself at a beautiful beach. The sun feels lovely on my skin. The rhythmic sound of the ocean soothes me.
My husband comes up behind me and puts his hands on my shoulder. He whispers how much he loves me. I feel safe, secure, and loved.
I imagine us walking hand in hand along the shore, feeling grateful and blessed that we have each other.
While I imagine that I also repeat my new thought.
As I continued to practice pairing my new thought with my future visualization, the results surprised me.
I actually started to feel good about myself.
I even believed it was possible to attract my true love.
The big surprise?
I was no longer attached to finding a partner who made me happy because I realized that I could feel happy all on my own.
I even fell in love with an amazing person – me!
Attracting my true love only happened AFTER I felt good about myself.
That’s when Michael walked into my life.
My post originally appeared on One Wise Life.
With heartfelt thanks to Maria Flynn!